RECOGNITION IS A BEGINNING
Which role feels
most like you?
Read these as invitations to notice yourself. Choose the one that resonates most today, even if several feel familiar.
I keep the peace.
I set aside my needs to avoid tension or conflict.
The CaretakerI take care of everyone.
I feel most valuable when someone needs me.
The PerfectionistI have to get it right.
I hold myself to standards that rarely let me rest.
The PerformerI have to prove myself.
I look to achievement and recognition to know I am enough.
The ChameleonI become who they need.
I change how I show up to fit the people around me.
The ComicI make it a joke.
I use humor when being serious would leave me exposed.
The Critical JudgeI notice what is wrong.
I use high standards and criticism to make things feel safer.
The Blame ThrowerI look for who is at fault.
When I feel vulnerable, I focus on what someone else did wrong.
The Self-deprecatorI put myself down first.
I minimize myself before someone else can judge me.
The AdvocateI fight for everyone else.
I speak up for others while my own needs wait.
The EncouragerI keep everyone hopeful.
I lift people up while hiding my own discouragement.
The ControllerI need to stay in control.
I try to manage people or outcomes when uncertainty feels unsafe.
The PunisherI want them to feel my hurt.
When hurt or betrayed, I feel pulled toward retaliation.
Nothing quite fits?
There is room for your own words. Choose “Another role” or “I’m not sure yet” in the intake.
Tell me about yourself ↗